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WHAT’S YOUR QUERY?


Issue Date 08 - 14 Apr, 2017 at 2:00 PM

WHAT’S YOUR QUERY?
Q: My engagement with my fiancée has been for two years. We both have had a couple of breakups before getting engaged to one another. Even though our relationship has been going really well, I am not too sure about our future together; as she is not someone I would want to spend my life with. I know it is very hypocritical of me to be saying this but I have recently come across instances where she has given me the impression of being a fiancé who spends money on her, ignoring the fact that I have been caring and loving towards her. Now I just feel like she is a gold digger. She comes from a lower middle class family, while I have a comparatively comfortable lifestyle. Our families knew each other through acquaintances and my mother thought this girl is best for me. I agreed to it, however, now the situation is changing gradually, as I have started to see her true colours. I don’t know how to tell my mom all of this but I don’t want to continue this relationship. Please help! Mohsin
A:
Dear Mohsin, it looks like you are confused at the moment. Sometimes your mind can mislead you. Maybe she is just appreciating the fact that you buy her presents and love her so much. It is probably her way of expressing her gratitude towards you. I would advise you not to judge her intentions and give her sometime. Introspect a bit and focus on her good qualities. There might be a reason for you to have agreed to this engagement in the first place. I am pretty sure she adores you as much and is understanding. Try talking this out with her. If she is someone sane, she will never misjudge you. Good luck!

WHAT’S YOUR QUERY?
Q: Hello! I am in college and I like this guy, who does not seem to be interested in me. The problem is that I like him a lot and his ignorance is very hurtful. Nothing in the world would hurt me more than knowing that he does not have feelings for me. I have tried telling him many times but he never seems to understand. I once saw him hanging out with one of our classmates, but never thought that they were dating, maybe because I was convinced that he would like me back whenever I confess my feelings. However, I recently came across his photo with the same girl at a college festival and felt extremely jealous. I really want my pain to end and would do anything to let him know what I feel for him. Please tell me how to tell him that I like him so much? Komal
A:
Hi Komal, this might not sound good but he is probably not for you. If he was really interested, he would have never ignored you. Even if he did, the fact that you have never approached him probably pulled him away. All you need to do is give up, once and for all. Obsessing about him will not help you at all. You probably have self-esteem issues that make you think you are not good enough for him or anyone else for that matter. Find someone who is as interested in you as you are in him. Even if you have seen him with someone else that doesn’t mean that they are dating, it is just you assuming scenarios. I suggest you let go and get over him. Also, you are in college, try focusing on your studies, as you have your entire life ahead to find a soul mate. Stop obsessing over him. Wish you well.
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