Q: I am a mom of two beautiful daughters. For the past few weeks, I have been noticing a slight change in my older daughter’s behaviour. She is 15 years old and is doing her A levels at the moment. I recently received a call from her school, informing me that she has bunked her class; I was so worried about her and started calling her up. She came home around 3 pm, thinking I was unaware of the whole situation. I asked where she had been and her response left me baffled, as she lied to me. I told her that her school has called me up and informed me about her class bunk; upon hearing this, she went furious and started yelling at me for being too nosy in her life. I, obviously, got angry and shouted at her for being so ill-disciplined. I feel like I overreacted. Please tell me how to tackle my teenage daughter. Thank you! Maha
A: Dear Maha, teenagers are usually very difficult to handle and even though childern in our part of the world are comparatively disciplined, but these days a lot of things come into consideration when correcting children. The most important factor we must not exclude when doing so is knowing how many friends our children exactly have. Nowadays, kids refer to every person they know as their friend and this is not something that can be ignored. Everyone cannot be friends with them, they may be classmates or study at the same school but ‘friends’ is used as a general term for just about anyone you know these days. This is where you need to pay attention. Keep a check on the number of friends your daughter has. Ask her for their numbers in case of an emergency when she is not reachable. Also, strictly inform her that bunking class is not something you appreciate, therefore, it shouldn’t happen again. Try to be as friendly as possible when doing so, because talking to her in an angry tone will do no good. Good luck!
Q: Hello! I belong to Karachi and am currently living in Lahore for my studies. I have been doing MBA from a reputable university; I am in my last semester at the moment and it’s not long before I get done with my degree and start a career. While in my second last semester, I worked part-time with a multinational where I worked really hard and won the confidence of my bosses. Now that I am nearing the end of my university, the firm has asked me to join full-time as a permanent employee. The day I was told this, I was the most excited person in the world, but the minute I realised that it is Karachi that I actually belong to, all my excitement just vanished in a jiffy. Even though I was a guy, it was very difficult for me to convince my parents and come to another city for studies. They were extremely reluctant and weren’t allowing me to do so. However, I somehow convinced them and will finally get my degree in a matter of weeks. I really want to do this job but don’t know how to break it to my parents. Please help! Ehtesham
A: Dear Ehtesham, it is quite surprising that even in this day and age parents are reluctant sending their sons to study in another city, whereas girls are going abroad to pursue education. Parents can sometimes get overprotective and there is nothing wrong with it as long as they are not doing it on an extremely crazy level. If they have sent you to study to a different city, I am pretty sure that they will have no issues with you starting your career from the same place. All you must do is contact them before it’s too late. Tell your parents about the opportunity and let them know how much it means to you. I am sure if they love you, they will definitely let you decide.
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