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Why do we feel shy? You enter in a room full of people. You feel everybody’s eyes on you. What do you feel you should do? Turn around and disappear? You probably start looking for the familiar faces and approach to them confidently or you might start feeling awkward and wish to leave the room immediately.
If you fall in the latter category, don’t worry. There are countless people who are as shy as you are, but to get to know them, you’ll have to overcome your shyness.
Literally, shyness is defined as ‘fear or apprehension of interacting with other people’. It doesn’t necessarily mean that certain individual dont want to interact with people or do not want to talk to them. Shyness is lack of confidence in one’s self and the things they want to convey. Shyness is often confused with introversion. ‘Social psychology’ is the study of the nature and causes of human social behaviour and mental processes, with an emphasis on how people think and take things present around them. And it widely defines the characteristics of an introvert. An introvert person is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in the time spent with groups of people. He’s likely to be energized when he is alone. They may not be shy but they don’t like interacting with people. Whereas, shy people avoid social activities because of fear. Shy people may like the company of people but don’t have the confidence to initiate a good conversation.
These type of people are often said to suffer from social phobia, embarrassment, self consciousness, timidity, lack of self-confidence, depression and loneliness due to lack of interaction with other people but dont worry you can fix it.

When do people feel shy? Unfamiliarity with people or situations is the best recipe for a shy-tastic disaster. A person has a tendency to be shy during social gatherings if others at the event are unknown to them. Some people feel shy when they are in uncertain situation and don’t know how to act or behave. Many times people feel shy even when they know everybody around them. For example if they are in a classroom. Or they are presenting something in front of their office colleagues and attention of the group is focused on them.
Being complimented on the way you look, speak, act or even a job well done can also bring about shyness. Most of the people feel uncomfortable when they are given compliments. And they try to avoid being caught in such situations. And that is a terrible situation, because we all live for the compliments. We feel admired and appreciated when we dress well or when we perform a good job. We usually like to get admired every time. That’s the kind of instant reward which you get. And it motivates you to perform well in future. Feeling uncomfortable due to compliments is disastrous. We lie in bed, couldn’t stop thinking about the compliment over and over again.
I am not trying to say that shyness is an awful thing it is a normal feeling.But sometimes it can get a little too much and that’s when we need to get it under control. It can create negativity and damage our self-esteem. It can also mean that we miss out on opportunities which may have taken us in an entirely new and positive direction. We can miss out on success, if we are too shy.
For example, you have excellent drawing and paintings skills. You can not show your work to others just because you are too shy. Have you ever thought about it that just because you are too shy to let anyone see your work you miss out on becoming a famous painter in future?
Another negative point in being shy is that you end up having no social life. Everybody finds hard time in interacting with new faces but shy people find it worse because having a social life and friends is a basic human need and they cannot fulfill that need just because they are shy.

Speaking up in the class
Speaking up in the class is very difficult for everyone. But it is more difficult for the shysters, because they have low self esteem. They consider other students sharper, intelligent and confident (which is not always true). We’re all equally uncertain and unsure. Because shy people are unable to speak their mind or get their point of view across. They may be considered dull and unintelligent by teachers even if they are exceptionally good students. To tackle the issue you can...
1.Learn to ask questions. Answers aren’t the answer to everything.
2. Everyone is as clueless as you. So, you are helping others to learn.
Never think what you have to say is not worth saying.
Learn to love the voice of your own sound. This way you will want to say stuff.
3. Never think of constructive criticism as a personal attack. Think of it as an opportunity to get your views accross.

Getting your point across
Always try to be a part of the group. Don’t stay quit and lheld back your ideas. It’s important to what we think and what we believe in is properly communicated to others. So that, you may not be misunderstood. Let everyone know what you think about a certain issue otherwise you’ll end up feeling frustrated because of your in ability to let out your bottled up feelings and ideas.

What do I want to say?
In the simple terms think before you say anything. Or write it out if you want to. But don’t think too much. Just make sure what exactly you want to say. But don’t take much time to decide whether you want a juice or drink? If you think too much you might end up saying “I want some drooss” or “Juink”. Either way, thinking too much will guarantee a groof.
Try to be as spontaneous as possible. Whatever the situation may be, shyness needs to be effectively overcome. Having firm faith in yourself and deep respect in who you are, is the key to the confidence. If you start respecting yourself, others will respect you. Start practicing in front of the mirror from today or watch talk shows on TV and start talking to your parents. At the end of the day you are the one who can overcome your problems and for that you have to overcome your weakness today!