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WHAT’S YOUR QUERY ?


Issue Date 19 - 25 Aug, 2017 at 2:00 PM

WHAT’S YOUR QUERY?
Q: Hi! I am a mom of two boys aged 10 and eight. My older son has extreme anger issues. He is really aggressive in nature and tends to get angry on trivial matters. Six months ago, we moved to a new locality and since then he has been acting like this. I initially ignored his behaviour thinking it’s because of the change we have made and probably because he misses our previous neighbourhood, but his aggression is increasing day by day. His attitude worries me a lot because it often embarrasses me in front of my husband and in-laws who blame me for his upbringing. I am tired of his behaviour and end up getting angry myself. I am really concerned, please help me. Ramsha
A:
Dear Ramsha, try to keep calm. The situation will worsen if you also behave like your kid. You need to keep one thing in mind, the more attention you give to his behaviour, he is more likely to do it again. Since it started happening after the move of locality, you need to keep an eye on your son and who he hangs out with in the new neighbourhood. Whenever he is getting angry, just stand near him and hold him without saying a word, and wait until he calms down. Considering his age, try to get him interested in fun activities. Talk to him about his day at school and with his friends. Do not punish him, as that will cause retaliation. It is not easy to deal with aggression and tantrum issues with kids but you need to be patient and understanding when dealing with it.

WHAT’S YOUR QUERY?
Q: Hi, I am 23 years old and have a habit of checking and re-checking things around the house such as the door lock, gas, electrical switches and fridge etc, to make sure everything is at its place. I often feel apprehensive about the things around me and this has been going on for the past few years. I also tend to check my bank account time after time. I do not know what’s wrong with me and am really fed up of this habit now, because it tends to affect my daily routine as well as my mental health. I can’t focus on anything at a time because I’m constantly thinking about something or the other. Please tell me how to control this habit. Zeenia
A:
Dear Zeenia, you need to see a psychiatrist as soon as possible because all of the things you mentioned point towards the possibility of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). All of the listed symptoms are usually experienced by those suffering from this mental health issue. OCD patients often get apprehensive about trivial matters and, tend to check and recheck things around them. It is evident that you understand the level of your behaviour and the distress it is causing you, which is why you need to take some action before the situation gets out of hand. Your accurate description is enough to tell that the problem needs treatment by an expert; therefore, a visit to a psychiatrist is the only solution to this problem.


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